Greetings, Fangirls! I’ve wanted to talk about this topic for a while, because it’s certainly something that needs to be talked about. As a 20 year old, talk of casual sex seems to be all around me. Especially with things like Tinder booming in popularity. I love that people are exploring new things & people, and not being afraid to have a lot of sex. But, I do worry that people aren’t going about things in a completely safe & sex positive way.
There’s this whole ugly stigma with having a lot of sex, especially when you’re young. Men are womanizers who don’t respect these ladies, and women are just sluts. This whole thing just makes me want to cry. A lot of people my age become afraid of having “too much” sex for fear of how they’ll be labeled. That’s nonsense. If someone is taking care of themselves, being safe about everything, and respecting themselves & their partners, why not explore things? For people who are comfortable with sex, who want to be having sex, who want to learn more about sex & what they like, I so so encourage them to go for the gold. Have multiple partners, have one time encounters. There is nothing wrong with that. However, my support starts to fade a bit when there’s a few very important pieces of the puzzle missing.
I will talk about protection until I’m blue in the face, Fangirls. And then some. It’s just such an easy step to take that makes it so you can have safe, more care free sex. If you’re looking to have a one time encounter with someone, making sure you’re both healthy & using protection, can keep it that way. Have a quick conversation, slip on a condom, and you’re on your way. I refuse to believe that with casual sex, you just “don’t have time” or it’s “not sexy” to talk about protection & to make sure that you’re both clean. Honestly, Fangirls, I don’t care. I don’t care if you don’t think it’s sexy or it’s too tedious or time consuming. I do care that you’re safe & having fun. It’s only three steps until you’re on you’re way to bone town. Communication, consent, protection. Take the time to do them, it will be much more worth it in the long run.
Don’t be ashamed about having or wanting to have casual sex or multiple partners, Fangirls. It’s more common than you think, and if you’re being safe, it’s in no way a problem. Sex is fun & nice, and you should be able to have it with whomever you want with out judgement. Go about things in a sex positive way, and all is well. Keep track of your partners, know their status, know you’re status, and be honest with your doctor. Regularly get tested, and always be prepared with protection. Also important, have fun, Fangirls!
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